Fifty Shades of Grey is on everyone’s mind for one reason or another. Love or hate E.L. James’ sexy series, the movie will be out February 2015. After reading the book(s), many women wanted to recreate the same sexual experience and pleasure (!) that Ana had. Shortly after the phenomenon, Fifty Shades of Grey inspired many of their own branded pleasure products — from BDSM gear and equipment to adult sex toys to adult lotions and potions.
Unfortunately, since My Secret Luxury is the ultimate authority on luxury sex toys and accessories, those Fifty Shades of Grey official products don’t meet our quality standards. So, here are our picks for products that meet our high quality standards.
High Quality Adult Sex Toys of 50 Shades:
Christian used a blindfold many times on Ana. He takes away her sense of sight, which leaves her wondering what is about to happen next. When you hinder one sense, all the others are heightened. It creates the feeling of excitement, but only if your lover feels safe with you. Our favorite blindfolds are the Bettie Page Blackout Blindfold and the LELO Intima Silk Blindfold.
For Christian’s birthday, Ana gives him a box with a few items she is curious to play with. One of the items is a metal butt plug. Although Christian explains that this is much too advanced for her and he starts with a finger, you may be ready to try one of these yourself. Why is anal play so pleasurable? For women, the clitoral legs and all of their amazing sensory nerve endings can extend all the way down to the anus. It’s very important with anal play to start small and of course, use lots of anal lubricant. Our favorite beginner butt plug is the Chrome Blossom Little Bud.
There are a wide variety of crops out there and only the highest quality products are worth your money. If you are beginner, it’s best for you and your lover to learn how to you a crop properly. We recommend starting with a wider crop so that it hits a larger surface area, which lessens the sting and is less painful for the receiver. You can then graduate to the smaller crop that Christian uses on Ana’s clitoris in the first book. To begin, try the Fashionistas Riding Crop or the Madame Mystique Crop.
Games of submission and dominance can add variety in the bedroom. You don’t need to buy a game or do anything formal. Blindfold your lover. Tie your lovers’ hands behind their back or over their head. Use an ice cube or massage oil candle to feel a different sensation. Seducing and teasing your lover is a great way to spice things up. For more inspiration, click here for 5 kinky games from Jaiya, an award-winning sexologist.
Thanks to 50 Shades, women now know and understand the benefits of these little balls of pleasure. What are kegel balls or ben wa balls? They are excellent for your sexual health, specifically, your pelvic floor health. They are discreet and comfortable to wear for many hours, if you wish. They can be used in a variety of ways. Our favorites are the kinds that have a smaller ball that jiggles inside them like the Fun Factory Smartballs or the Je Joue Ami.
We love that music is its own character in the book. Music can be a relaxing tool as well as a powerful aphrodisiac. Opera, classical and powerful vocals that do not have words can be erotic and put you in the mood for sexual play. Listen to the music from the book or make your own list of favorite sexy music. Or, if you want to take things to the next level, try an OhMiBod vibrator, like the OhMiBod blueMotion that vibrates to music!
Believe it or not, restraints or handcuffs can be playful. Yes – because it adds another dimension to sexual play or another way to spice things up. Remember when you impede once sense, all of the other senses are heightened. Restraints should be beautiful yet also do their job of restraining. Try the beautiful LELO Etherea wrist cuffs or BondAids handcuffs. If you want to try something that’s a little bit more daring, like rope, make sure that you get a hemp or natural fiber rope like the Bettie Page Bondage Rope. And don’t forget to always be safe when it comes to playing with restraints.
Like so many women, Ana was a newbie to the world of vibrators. Thanks to Christian, she became a fan! In one scene, he also used music and a blindfold with the vibrator. Which is the best luxury vibrator for you? Everyone’s body is different and everyone likes different things. Part of the fun of using a vibrator is experimenting with different types to discover what you like best. Read more about how to choose the right vibrator for you here.
Just like Ana opened herself to an entirely different world from what she was used to, it’s time for you to try new things and experiment. Don’t get discouraged if you don’t have the same experience as Ana on your first try. It takes skill and practice for most of us, unless you have a lover like Christian! Be patient with yourself and your lover. Always remember to be open and honest with yourself especially when it comes to new types of sexual play and exploration. The entire point is to create and live your own fantasy!