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A Sex Educator’s Guide to Prostate Play

September is both Prostate Health and Prostate Cancer Awareness Month. The prostate has gotten lots of attention in the last decade or so and is slowly being recognized as a pleasure center. At My Secret Luxury, we think there’s no better way to celebrate than with a little exploration and massage! Of course, a little Prostate 101 doesn’t hurt either! Here’s a ... Read More »


How To Talk About Sex With Your Partner

How to talk about sex with your partner

Let’s face it — talking about sex can be awkward. Not only are you uncomfortable to talk to your friends about this subject, but it can be harder to talk about sex with your partner! You worry what they’ll think. Will they laugh? Be disgusted? How do you even bring it up?! How do you talk about sex with your ... Read More »


More Tips for Traveling with Sex Toys

Tips for Traveling with Sex Toys

It’s peak travel season and that means you and your partner probably have a trip planned. Whether you’re going across the city or across the world, bringing sex toys with you helps ensure you have great sex while away. Traveling with sex toys presents some unique challenges — specifically how to pack them and what to do if your bag ... Read More »


The Benefits of Kegel Exercises for Men

The Benefits of Kegel Exercises for Men

Most of the time when you hear the word “Kegels” they are in reference to childbirth.  However, Kegel exercises are not just for women! Anyone can benefit from doing their Kegels regularly — even men. Kegels help men in so many ways: from erections to incontinence. What are Kegel exercises? Quite simply, Kegels are exercises that strengthen your pubococcygeus (PC) or ... Read More »


What Are The Health & Sexual Benefits of Masturbation?

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Polishing the pearl. Choking the monkey. Paddling the pink canoe. Beating the meat. May is National Masturbation Month! Yet, it’s funny the lengths we go to avoid saying the word “masturbation” when it’s something that most adults have tried at least once. This silence is also quite disheartening as masturbation, or whatever phrase you feel most comfortable using to describe touching ... Read More »


How to Deal with Different Sex Drives in a Relationship

How to Deal with Different Sex Drives

HELP! I have a different sex drive than my partner. What do I do? Sound familiar? You are not alone. One of the most common questions I receive as a coach for women who aren’t sexually satisfied in their relationships is how to deal with sex drive differences. One person wants sex more than the other and its causing problems. The ... Read More »


3 Ways to Add More Pleasure to Your Life

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Written by Kait Scalisi, MPH, Director of Education and Training, My Secret Luxury During the trainings I lead with healthcare providers and public health professionals, I start and end my sessions with one question: “Is pleasure a part of health?” Throughout the training, I repeat the question while exploring it from a health perspective. As you probably aren’t surprised to ... Read More »


BDSM 101: How to Improve Your Sex Life With ‘50 Shades of Grey’

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50 Shades of Grey made BDSM mainstream and suddenly, everyone is talking about it: your best friends, co-workers, and maybe even some open family members. What the book didn’t do is teach you the basics of BDSM and how to incorporate it into the bedroom.  What is BDSM? The acronym stands for bondage and discipline, domination and submission, and sadism ... Read More »


Best New Sex Toys of 2015

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Welcome to 2015! Daily Dot said that 2014 was the year that sex tech went high tech. Can it get any better than that? We think so! What will 2015 bring for adult sex toys? Here’s our list of the best new sex toys for 2015: updated (March 31, 2015) Bubble Love Gone are the days when you would use the shower ... Read More »


Holiday Gift Guide for Women and Men

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This holiday season, give the gift of pleasure. Sexy gifts of high quality adult toys and sex accessories make excellent gifts. They are the gifts that KEEP ON GIVING! My Secret Luxury’s Holiday Gift Guide for Women and Men Sexy Gifts for Women: Doxy Massager – Move over Hitachi Magic Wand. The Doxy is in town! This classic handheld electric massager gives ... Read More »


The Difference Between Adult Novelties and Sex Toys

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Written by Kait Scalisi, MPH, Director of Education and Training, My Secret Luxury and My Secret Soiree You know adult sex toys can help keep your relationship fun and exciting. But not all toys are made equally. Is there a difference between adult novelties and sex toys? Yes . . .  and no! First and foremost, those toys that have “For ... Read More »


Got Sex Questions? How To Get Answers

Got Sex Questions-We Have Answers

Written by Kait Scalisi MPH, Director of Education and Training, My Secret Luxury and My Secret Soiree Over the last five years leading adult sex toy parties and doing sexuality consultations, I’ve learned that most everyone has questions about sex. The questions vary a lot in terms of breadth and depth, but everyone, myself included, has them. Maybe you’ve been in ... Read More »


Never Had An Orgasm? The Afterglow Will Help!

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Unfortunately, so many women have never had an orgasm. That could be due to one or more reasons: They have experienced sexual trauma They don’t deserve pleasure Their partner doesn’t value their pleasure It’s time that women take control of their own pleasure and achieve that orgasm that they deserve! Dr. Ralph Zimmer, a Flordia urogynecologist, who treats overactive bladder disease, stumbled upon away ... Read More »


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