Myth: Vibrators are for single ladies.
FACT: Married women actually report higher rates of use than singles (60 vs. 30 percent). Given that women who use vibrators also report higher levels of sexual desire and satisfaction, this is actually good news for marriages!
Myth: Men hate vibrators.
FACT: Actually, men like vibrators too! Some women worry that their partners will be intimidated by vibrators, but a recent study says otherwise. The good folks at the Kinsey Institute polled over 3000 respondents and 70 percent of men reported that they have no issue with their female lovers using a battery-operated device in bed. Men understand that while vibrators can help to produce mind-blowing orgasms, they are not a replacement for human touch, affection and connection.
In Dr. Jess’ practice, she observed that men are both excited and pro-active in response to her suggestion that they explore the world of sex toys. One client explained his enthusiasm: “If it puts her in the mood, then I’m all for it! And if it helps her to climax, I definitely want to make friends with that thing.”
Another client was surprised to learn that the vibrations intensified his orgasms too: “I assumed these things were only for women, but the sensations actually made the experience more pleasurable for me too.”
Myth: Vibrators are highly addictive.
FACT: You may love using your vibrator, but the chances of becoming addicted to it are slim to none. Addiction involves impaired behavioural control, constant craving, difficulty recognizing problem behaviours and a dysfunctional emotional response. She has yet to come across a man or woman whose vibrator use amounts to addiction.
You may find it is easier to reach orgasm with a vibrator, but this is simply a function of your body’s unique and natural responses. It only becomes a problem if you forget to charge the batteries…
Myth: The bigger the better!
FACT: Many women use vibrators on the outside to rub, tug and massage, so size is often less relevant than shape. Some of the newer models, like the We-Vibe Thrill Vibrator and Fun Factory G4 Calla Vibrator, have handles and angles designed to offer both penetration and vulval rubbing alongside vibrations.
Her clients also report that the mini vibrators are the ones that pack the greatest climactic punch.
Myth: Vibrators cause numbness and nerve damage.
FACT: Regular use of vibrators will not cause nerve damage and very few women (3 percent) experience frequent numbness from vibrator use. This numbness is temporary and is similar to the sensations you might experience after a long session of intercourse. Just as your butt can feel numb after sitting through a two-hour meeting, your clitoris reacts in a similar fashion to intense stimulation. After a few minutes (or sometimes a bit longer), they both go back to normal.
Myth: If your lover uses a vibrator, you’re doing something wrong.
FACT: A vibrator is simply an enhancement device and is not designed to replace a human partner. In fact, women who use vibrators actually report higher levels of sexual satisfaction and functioning in partnered relationships. For some of her clients, the introduction of vibrating toys has actually opened the lines of communication and inspired them to talk about sex in new and meaningful ways.
And a few that I’ll add . . . .
Myth: All vibrators require batteries and are not waterproof.
FACT: Cheap vibrators require batteries and/or are not waterproof. Most luxury vibrators are waterproof and rechargeable. So, you don’t have to worry about having extra batteries on hand, and you can use your vibrator in the shower, bath or pool.
Myth: All vibrators are safe for your body.
FACT: Most vibrators are made with toxic materials such as phthalates, which is a chemical to soften plastic. Why would you want to put anything toxic near or in the vagina? All high quality vibrators are bodysafe and don’t contain any toxic chemicals.
Truth: You pay for what you get. When it comes to sex toys for women, especially the best vibrators, quality is worth the extra investment.