It is safe to have sex while pregnant and use sex toys if you are having a healthy pregnancy.
Always consult your practitioner if you have any questions.
If you are pregnant, you might have NO interest in sex, or it might be ALL you think about! Your feelings about sex and pleasure could change depending on your trimester as well. (Most people report that the second trimester is the best for sex and pleasure because you are no longer feeling as nauseous, tired, and are not that big yet.)
Everyone experiences pregnancy differently. Pregnancy is similar to pleasure. Everyone has a different experience and no two bodies are the same!
Should You Use Sex Toys or Have Sex While Pregnant? Ask Your Health Care Provider!
Don’t be shy! Soon enough, your doctor will be seeing your most intimate areas during labor and delivery! Plus, they are well aware of how babies are made!
It is perfectly safe to use sex toys or have sex while pregnant so long as you have a healthy pregnancy. However, if you have a history of miscarriage or other high-risk problems, your practitioner would have probably told you to not have sex or use a sex toy at certain times of your pregnancy.
If you have placenta previa, having contractions from an orgasm, whether it’s from masturbation or sex, could cause heavy bleeding, which might endanger your pregnancy.
If you are at risk of developing pre-term labor or you are experiencing frequent uterine contractions, it is best to avoid the use of a vibrator and/or sexual activity to prevent orgasm and any potential harm to the baby. Orgasms cause contractions in the uterus. If you’re at high risk for early labor, these contractions might pose a risk.
If you are carrying twins or triplets (or more!), your practitioner might be concerned about preterm contractions because the uterus might be over-extended.
Lots of sex during your first trimester, especially if you have had a few miscarriages or are high risk, is not recommended by many doctors because it could produce a spontaneous miscarriage.
Of course, if you have experienced any vaginal bleeding, discuss this with your practitioner before having sex or using sex toys. A small amount of spotting after sex or vibrator may be caused by the cervix being irritated. It’s best to inform your doctor about any bleeding.
Now that you have determined that you are having a healthy pregnancy (aside from nausea, being super tired, etc!), if you do have sex or use sex toys . . .
Will the baby know what you are doing?
The baby is well-cushioned by the amniotic fluid. Plus, the baby doesn’t even know what sex or pleasure means!
Always remember . . .
No matter how much sexual pleasure you have, start slow if you (and/or your partner) are a little worried about hurting you or the baby. Communicate to your partner what feels comfortable and good, so you can both enjoy the experience and have fun!
Best Sex Positions
The best sex positions, while you are pregnant, are the positions that make you the most comfortable. We recommend these comfortable and easy positions:
- You on top of your partner
- You on your hands and legs, i.e. doggie
- Spooning, where your partner is behind you and both of you are on your sides
- You lie on your back horizontally on the edge of the bed and your partner stays standing the entire time
Orgasms And Why They Feel So Good
Orgasms can be more intense while pregnant. There is more blood flow to your entire genital and pelvic region, including your uterus and clitoris. This makes the vaginal area more engorged with blood. The clitoris is more sensitive then ever before and you can get aroused even easier due to the increased blood flow. Hormonal changes can also make orgasms more intense.
There are so many health benefits to orgasms and masturbation. For pregnant women, the top reasons are that it reduces stress, reduces nausea and pain and helps you sleep better!
Unless you are restricted from having an orgasm, go for it!
Masturbation during pregnancy is perfectly fine. Regular masturbation can be beneficial for both you and your baby because of the increased blood flow to the uterus. More blood flow means more oxygen to the baby, which is a good thing.
Some practitioners recommend masturbation in the last stages of pregnancy to induce labor, especially if labor is delayed.
Remember: Masturbation and pleasure shouldn’t stop because you are becoming a mom. You are no less sexual than you were before your pregnancy. For many pregnant women who feel too sick or uncomfortable to have regular partner sex, masturbation is a good alternative.
Once again, if your practitioner has signed off on sex and you’re not experiencing hemorrhoids, anal play and anal sex are safe during pregnancy.
The same rules apply as if you were not pregnant: NEVER go from anal to vaginal sex without thoroughly washing first. (The same holds true for your sex toys: wash them after anal play before you insert them vaginally!) If you forget to clean up in the heat of passion, you could potentially introduce harmful bacteria to your vagina, which could then harm you and your baby.
Oral sex is a pleasurable alternative to penetration as long as your doctor has given you the ok to orgasm. Licking, sucking and tongue penetration is perfectly fine. Since your blood vessels are more dilated when pregnant, blowing into the vagina during pregnancy should be avoided. Blowing air can cause an air embolism (a sudden air bubble enters a vein or artery in utero and blocks it, causing a heart attack, stroke or respiratory failure).
Blowjobs and oral stimulation remain fun sexual play during pregnancy. Pregnant women can swallow semen, and semen is not harmful to you or your baby.
Adding sex toys to the bedroom — whether it’s for solo or couples play — only enhances sex and pleasure. Sex toys are just a means to an end. Plus, they don’t get tired or complain and do exactly as directed!
While you are pregnant, your clitoris will most likely be more sensitive thanks to the increased blood flow and your raging hormones. Sex toys are an excellent way (whether pregnant or not) to help you achieve orgasm!
Sex Tip: Almost 70% of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm.
Foreplay can be enhanced by sex toys too. If you are restricted from penetration, sex toys are another way to create and enhance intimacy between you and your partner.
Remember to always clean your sex toys to keep you and your baby safe from harmful bacteria or infections. Wash each toy before and after every use. You can wash your toys with sex toy cleaner, put non-vibrating toys in the top rack of your dishwasher or even boil your luxury sex toys. If you share your sex toy with your partner, wash it thoroughly or use a condom when you switch users.
What Kind of Sex Toys Should You Use?
Definitely, do NOT use cheap sex toys!
The best sex toys are phthalate-free. Phthalates are used to soften plastics to make them more flexible. They can be toxic especially to developing children (which is why they have removed them from children’s toys) and can disrupt hormones. These toxins have been linked to many health problems including fertility.
If internal stimulation is your thing, you should ONLY be using a high-quality luxury vibrator.
Most internal cheap vibrators are manufactured from toxic plastic that always poses a risk of penetration in the cervix. Phthalates can irritate the cervical lining and may endanger your pregnancy.
Since the sex toy industry is NOT regulated, manufacturers can use all types of materials and label them as phthalate-free when they are really not. Therefore, beware of cheap sex toys.
A cheap sex toy is cheap for a reason. Usually, it’s the material that distinguishes it apart from a higher quality toy. All luxury sex toys are phthalate-free and not toxic.
Learn more about sex toy materials here.
You want to use the best sex toy and the highest quality sex toy that you can afford. After all, what goes into your body also affects your baby!
Can I use an internal sex toy?
Yes. However, we advise never going too deep or being too forceful with an internal sex toy. Whenever you experience pain you should stop.
A sex toy that is inserted into your body will not pierce the placenta: the mucous plug fills and seals the cervical canal, protecting your baby from any outside harm. However, you should still be gentle when you are using an internal sex toy since the material is much harder and stiffer than the penis (and could damage your vaginal lining).
There are several reasons why you might not want to use an internal sex toy:
- You have been advised not to have sex.
- You have a low-lying placenta.
- You have a weak cervix (maybe from a previous pregnancy).
- You have been advised you that you are at risk for premature labor.
- You have an active vaginal infection.
- Your water has broken and there’s a risk of infection if you insert a sex toy.
Do vibrations hurt the baby?
The baby is protected by the amniotic fluid. The baby has no idea what’s going on and definitely won’t remember any of it!
Preventing Urinary Tract Infections
After you have any form of sex while pregnant, even if you just use luxury sex toys or lube, make sure to empty your bladder. Unfortunately, you are more prone to bladder infections during pregnancy. Therefore, it is important to reduce the risk of bacteria entering your urinary tract. (In some cases, urinary tract infections during pregnancy can result in pre-term labor.)
Make sure you drink plenty of water, which will help flush out any toxins in your systems.
- Of course, any signs of spotting should be reported to your practitioner. Don’t be shy! They want to hear all of the gory details because after all it’s their job and they will be delivering your baby very shortly.
- If you are 37 weeks or more pregnant and orgasm or vibrator use is followed by regular, painful contractions beyond 2 hours, contact your healthcare provider to check if this is or is not the beginning of labor.
Here’s our list of the top 10 best sex toys during pregnancy:
Mimic External Vibrator
The Mimic by Clandestine Devices is shaped to fit perfectly in your hand. This luxury sex toy offers broad stimulation to the vulva or direct vibration to the clitoris. Used alone or with a partner, Mimic’s fully waterproof body-safe silicone and unique design. This luxury vibrator has a solid center and flexible wings that bend and form to your body for the ultimate in all-over vibration.
Je Joue Uma
JimmyJane Iconic Wand
If a wand massager is more your thing and you like a lot of power, then the JimmyJane Iconic Wand is for you! It’s a large toy that makes it easy to use when your belly gets so big that you can no longer see your feet! It’s also perfect for a back massage or any place on your body that’s starting to ache from carrying the baby.
Starting at $85.00
(Free & discreet shipping)
As you belly gets bigger, you will be more uncomfortable. Whether it’s to support your stomach, back or side, the Liberator Pillows can help you feel more comfortable during sex and masturbation. When the Liberator Ramp Pillow combined with the Liberator Wedge Pillow, it’s even more versatile! The Liberator Ramp Pillow provides a greater range of support and lift, while the Liberator Wedge Pillow is a great addition to be able to use for adjustable head support. For solo play, the Liberator Bonbon Pillow is a good choice due to accessibility on control.
Let’s face it….being pregnant is not easy. Another being takes over your body for 9 months. At some point, you can’t sleep or see over your belly. That’s why the MysteryVibe Crescendo is an awesome luxury toy when you are pregnant. With 6 powerful yet silent motors, you can bend MysteryVibe Crescendo into any shape that is comfortable for you. Whether you use it externally or internally or alone or with a partner, the MysteryVibe Crescendo can be used with your smartphone as the remote control.
Tantus Rumble Wand Massager is a super light and has mid-range power with a rumbly yet quiet motor for deep and powerful vibration. Vibration is focused more on the head than your hands vs. other vibrators where you feel the vibration down the handle. Tantus Rumble Wand Massager is easy to hold and use with large controls. (This is very helpful when you can’t see over your stomach!) Plus, Rumble’s external head can be easily removed and cleaned hygienically and you can purchase additional attachments for even more pleasure!
WV Pleasure Mate Collection
This 3-in-1 toy collection is an excellent way to cover all your pleasure areas! The We-Vibe Pleasure Mate Collection comes with a We-Vibe Tango, a super strong bullet vibrator for external vibration with a one-button and super easy to use interface. You can use the We-Vibe Tango with the We-Vibe Glow for internal stimulation or external stimulation if the We-Vibe Tango is too strong or just like a longer vibrator in your hands. Finally, use the We-Vibe Tango with the We-Vibe Dusk for anal stimulation or hands-free clitoral and external stimulation.
Intimate Earth Foaming Cleanser
Starts at $14.95
It’s always super important to clean your luxury sex toys before and after use, but it’s even more so now that you are carrying your baby. Intimate Earth Foaming Cleanser uses all natural tea tree oil, a natural antiseptic, to help clean and rid your toys of any harmful bacteria.
Sliquid Organics Natural
Starts at $14.99
Whether your pregnancy is making you dry or not, you always need lube. It just makes masturbation or sex BETTER thanks to the added lubrication. Sliquid Organics Natural is a water-based lubricant that is best used with silicone sex toys or when you need something before your own natural lubrication kicks in. Made from organic ingredients, Sliquid Organics Natural feels wet and can be reconstituted with water or saliva.
Starts at $19.99
Whereas water-based lubricant feels wet, silicone lubricant feels slick. Migliori is a premium silicone lubricant that does not feel tacky and keeps going and going and going. Thanks to added Vitamin E, it also moisturizes your skin and it super soft.
The Best Advice
Always remember: When pregnant, you should do everything in moderation, including sex and sex toy use. Almost anything that feels good for you is safe for your baby, as long as you are not restricted by your doctor.
Now that you have learned that it’s safe to have sex and use sex toys during pregnancy, don’t forget that pleasure is a birthright and make sure that you get the pleasure that you deserve!