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6 Tips for Adding BDSM to the Bedroom | BDSM for Beginners

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There are many questions surrounding BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, Masochism) if you are a BDSM beginner. “Will it hurt?”; “Is it ok to want it?”; “How do you start with BDSM?” Whether you prefer dominance or submission, BDSM is all about pleasure and highlighting the senses. Whether you are a BDSM beginner or expert, when aroused, our bodies respond differently, making us feel unexpected pleasure.

If BDSM is something that interests you, and you are not sure where to begin, BDSM can be overwhelming and scary for beginners. But, BDSM doesn’t have to be.

Why?

Because anyone can do it! And, it is very easy for BDSM beginners to get started.

6 Tips for Adding BDSM to the Bedroom for Beginners

1 – Communicate

Tell your partner that you are interested in exploring this type of pleasure. Once you do start experimenting, especially when you are a BDSM beginner, make sure to check-in with your partner to see if they also enjoyed themselves and discuss if there are any ways that the experience can be improved.

2 – Yes/No/Maybe List

BDSM beginners together with your partner should write a comprehensive list of every sexual act that comes to mind. Next to each item, each person writes Yes, No or Maybe. That’s the best way to discover what interests both of you.

If you want something more formal, you could use a BDSM contract. Written by an attorney, this legal-style document is excellent for any relationship that experiments with BDSM sexual play and power exchange. Make your goals, desires, boundaries and limits crystal clear to your partner with this BDSM contract. You and your partner can choose how strict or lenient this contract should be.

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3 – Know What Turns You On

No matter what kind of sexual play you like, everyone should know what turns them on and what does not.

For BDSM beginners, the easiest and safest way to discover what turns you on is to read BDSM erotica or educational books about BDSM. Note in the story what excites you, and share it with your partner.

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4 – Stay Safe

All BDSM beginners should Agree on a safeword with their partner. This safeword for when things get to be too much for you or your partner, like “red” (stop) or yellow” (go slower).

5 – Smaller Is Better

Everyone should start small and keep it simple. An excellent BDSM toy and bondage gear for beginners is a blindfold or wrist cuffs. Or, you can use your hand for spanking. Once you get more comfortable, you can introduce other items into your fantasy.

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6 – Have Fun!

BDSM is all about creating intimacy and erotic moments that turn you on. It’s ok to laugh or quit if it’s not working.

Ready to begin?

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