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8 Best Sex Toys for Menopausal Women

8 Best Sex Toys for Menopausal Women

Menopause is a nasty word for many women. It changes your body, your mind and your sex drive.

The change in your hormones from menopause effects how your body reacts sexually. You may not be as easily aroused as you once were and you may be less sensitive to touching or stroking.

Due to the lower levels of estrogen, there can be less blood supply to the vagina.  Unfortunately, that can affect vaginal lubrication, which means that the vagina is not wet enough for sex.

Little to no lubrication makes sex uncomfortable and painful. That translates to the frequency of sex going W A Y down.

No matter how you slice it, menopause usually means less sex and intimacy for you and your partner.

Sex toys help with menopause.

Unfortunately, many doctors don’t know or recognize this. Why? Simply, because it’s not being taught in med school and many doctors are not comfortable with using sex toys for sexual health and wellness.

Vibrators and other adult products stimulate pelvic blood flow, which helps to create more vaginal moisture. More moisture means better sex! Plus, vaginal tissues are thinner and more delicate making the best sex toys for menopausal women different from what other women need.


Doxy Massager

Menopausal women need power. Power is Doxy’s middle name. The Doxy electric massager packs a powerful punch. If you want something rechargeable and has amazing textures and attachments, then try the Le Wand Massager.

Doxy Electric Massager

Tantus Silk Dildo

The vagina needs stimulation (massaged, squeezed, contracted) to keep vaginal walls active. This will help avoid thinning and drying by bringing blood flow to feed the tissue. The Tantus Silk Dildo is a perfect beginner dildo for menopausal women because it is slim, pliable and smooth and it comes in three sizes giving you lots of options.

(If you want a vibrating dildo, then try the Tantus Leisure Vibe.)


Je Joue Ami Kegel Balls

Maintaining your vaginal muscles and your pelvic floor is very important during menopause. Building up muscle strength with Kegel balls helps maintain the elasticity of the vaginal wall. Strong vaginal walls mean better orgasms.

Je Joue Ami Kegel Balls are a Kegel ball exercise set. Start with the lightest ball and then work your way up to the heaviest.


Elvie Kegel Exerciser features breakthrough technology and is the smallest pelvic floor exerciser on the market. The ergonomic, discreet and portable exerciser tracks your pelvic floor and Kegel workouts with personalized workouts developed by physiotherapists and other experts. It uses force and motion sensors to measure pelvic floor movement, assisted by the free app to help you visualize the exercises in real-time. The app also lets you know whether you are doing the exercises correctly.



The WomanizerWomanizer Plus, and Womanizer 2Go can help you have fast and often multiple orgasms — without over-stimulation. Using suction and vibration, the Womanizer directly stimulates the clitoris and the area around the clitoris.



We-Vibe Rave

Find toys that are soft and have some bend to them so that they don’t pinch, scratch or cause pain to delicate tissues. Menopausal vaginal tissue tends to be thinner and less elastic.  Silicone toys are firm enough to give the toy structure without being too hard.

The We-Vibe Rave Vibrator is a great toy for both external clitoral stimulation and internal G-spot stimulation. Rave is the perfect size (not girthy), shaped for easy insertion, and angled just right for G-spot pleasure. Plus you can control it with your smartphone!We-Vibe-Rave-G-Spot-Vibrator-iphone

Vaginal Dilators

After menopause, the vagina becomes dry, less elastic, narrower, and shorter. Vaginal dilators prevent your vagina from becoming too narrow/tight and keep your vagina more elastic. All of this means less painful sex.

We recommend silicone vaginal dilators or vibrating dilators.

Silicone-Vaginal-Dilator-Set-Sinclair-InstituteSex toys also include products that enhance your sex life and help you have more sexual desire like personal lubricants and sexual stimulants.

Personal Lubricants

During menopause, your body produces less moisture than before. Therefore, lubricant to the rescue! It just makes everything better and more pleasurable. Think of it this way: Would you go down a water slide without water?

Good Clean Love Restore is designed as a daily vaginal moisturizer that’s made with natural ingredients instead of chemicals that you normally find in most lubricants.

Another good choice is Migliori, a silicone lubricant that is not sticky or tacky and has vitamin E, which makes it silky smooth.  Plus, the glass bottle and convenient pump top doesn’t look like your typical lubricant.



Sexual Stimulants

Sexual stimulants, like a clitoral arousal oil, also help with lubrication. They bring more blood flow to the clitoris, which kick-starts your natural lubrication. As a bonus, it also helps you get aroused much faster too!

Our favorite is ON Arousal Oil because it’s all natural — made with cinnamon oil, which doesn’t burn but tingles — and comes in 3 different varieties: Lite, Original and Ultra as well as the ON Arousal Gel.


Pleasure should not stop when you experience menopause. Sex toys and adult products make sex easier and more enjoyable during this annoying and crazy time in your life. They can help you feel sexy and happy.

Plus, they have useful health benefits for you (and your relationship)!

Do you want to learn more about sex and menopause? Host a workshop or class with your friends or other couples with My Secret Soiree!

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