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Do You Need Personal Lubricant?

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Do You Need Lubricant?

Most of the time, our bodies produce enough natural lubricant to be comfortable every day. However, if you are having sex or using sex toys, you may need more than what nature provides, especially if you are experiencing hormonal changes, on medications or experiencing stress.

Lube and Sex Toys

If you are using toys, you need to use personal lubricant. Toys tend to dry up as they are exposed to air, making for uncomfortable re-entry. Ouch!

Lube and Anal Sex

For anal sex and play, lubrication is a must. Unlike the vagina, the anus does not produce natural lubrication. Therefore, lube is necessary. Plus, lube makes anal play more comfortable. Anal lubricant, which is thicker than regular lubricant, stays on the skin longer and provides a more comfortable feeling by reducing friction and sensation.

Lube Myths

In case you are worried, using personal lubricant is not a sign of a broken body or a failed libido. Instead, it’s the most normal thing in the world!

Myth #1: I am wet enough. 

Fact: Every person has a baseline level of wetness. Where it may take one person five minutes to produce enough natural lubrication with just a minimal amount of stimulation, it may take another person as long as thirty minutes of foreplay before they have produced enough natural lubrication for enjoyable sex.

We get asked a lot if personal lubricant is needed if someone produces a lot of vaginal moisture? She still might want to use lubricant because it can add sensation to the moisture.

You can always be wetter …especially as you get older. Menopause causes many women to be drier, which makes sex painful. Another way to think about it….Imagine when you wash your hands without soap. You can do it but it’s not as easy. Now add a tablespoon of water. Again, you can do it but you probably wish you had more water. Now add a cup of water, washing your hands is now much easier. Lube essentially acts the same was lessening the friction of penetration.

Myth #2: I turn my partner on enough so that they don’t need lube.

Fact: No matter how much your partner may be turned on, the amount of personal lubricant produced by their body is different for everyone and is different at different times of the month. Where it may take one person five minutes to produce enough natural lubrication with just a minimal amount of stimulation, it may take another person as long as thirty minutes of foreplay before they have produced enough natural lubrication for enjoyable sex. 

Myth #3: Something is wrong with me if I need lube.

Fact: Nothing is wrong with you if you need to use lube. The amount of lube you produce is affected by:

  • Medication
  • Stress
  • Lack of sleep
  • Diet
  • Pregnancy
  • Health conditions
  • Dehydration
  • Menstrual cycle
  • And more…

Myth: You don’t need lube for anal play.

Fact: Just like it is mentioned above, unlike the vagina, the anus does not lubricate itself. Therefore, lube is required for comfortable and pleasurable anal sex.

Different Lube for Different People

Should you buy what your friend recommends? Just because your friend recommends a particular type or brand of lubricant, it doesn’t mean that it will work for you. It is normal for people to have different physical reactions to things and be turned on in different ways. Find what works best for you!

Hopefully, you now understand why personal lubricant is so important to use. The next step is how to choose a lubricant, which you can learn here.

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