Some people think masturbation is something only single people or those in long-distance relationship do. Some also know masturbating has tons of health benefits. And a few, usually those who’ve dealt with it, know that masturbation is great for managing sex drive differences in a relationship. Regardless, most people still think of masturbation as an exclusively solo activity.
In honor of #MasturbationMonth , we are here to tell you that doesn’t have to be the case. Mutual masturbation – when you and your partner self-pleasure together – is both a fun and useful foreplay tip.
Mutual masturbation is a highly intimate act.
Masturbating together can feel more vulnerable than intercourse. It asks that you share something private, that previously was only for you. Since vulnerability and intimacy are inextricably linked, leaning into any discomfort you feel about doing this ultimately leads to a deeper connection.
If mutual masturbation triggers you in any way, it’s totally ok to say no.
Mutual masturbation is a foreplay tip that is a fabulous way to learn more about each other.
Masturbating together gives you a “behind-the-scenes” look at exactly how your partner masturbates. You see, and can later copy, which strokes work for them, where they touch, how they breathe, and so much more.
This is such good news. Even people who struggle to orgasm otherwise, usually climax when they masturbate. Witnessing this act helps you help them experience more pleasure going forward.
Mutual masturbation is super sexy.
Watching anyone bring themselves pleasure is very hot and erotic. Watching a partner you trust masturbate is the ultimate visual treat!
Think of it as in real life pornography performed just for you. Plus – you now have a whole library of sexy visuals to inspire fantasies for future sexual play (solo or partnered).
What if my partner thinks that the way I masturbate is strange?
Let’s say you hump a pillow. Or breathe really loudly. Or twist into one certain position.
Whatever it is, I promise you two things:
- It’s been done before. Knowing this always helps me when I’m worried about sharing something.
- When it comes to sex and masturbating, there is no weird. There’s only more and less common. Learn more here.
Mutual masturbation is a great alternative to intercourse.
If time is not on your side, it’s simply faster.
Plus, you’re each in control, making it the perfect busy weeknight sex act. The next time you’re in the mood to try something new or in the mood but also super tired, give mutual masturbation a try.
Still have questions about how to make mutual masturbation part of your sex life? Contact Kait, Director of Education and Training, for a free 15 minute phone chat.
Written by Kait Scalisi, Directors of Education and Training, My Secret Luxury