There are many myths surrounding sex and disability. People with disabilities can have a very fulfilling sex life with the help of the best sex toys.
According to the World Health Organization, one in seven people experiences disabilities. Most people think of people with disabilities having physical disabilities including:
- Lack of mobility
- vision loss and blindness
- hearing loss and deafness
Yet, there are many other disabilities to consider. Developmental disabilities, psychological disabilities, and chronic illnesses can also affect your sex life.
Sadly, there are many myths surrounding sex and disabilities. Just because you have a disability, doesn’t mean that you can’t enjoy sex and pleasure, whether it is alone or with a partner.
Myth 1: People with disabilities are not sexual or should not be sexual.
That is NOT true.
Not everyone with disabilities is asexual. People living with disabilities have sexual needs too. They are as sexual. They need and want sex. They fantasize, desire human touch and intimacy. They go through puberty. They want to date. Having a disability does not change the fact that we are all sexual beings.
Myth 2: If people with disabilities are sexual, they only like the opposite sex and prefer vanilla sex.
People with disabilities like lots of different people and things. They can be heterosexual or homosexual. They might like vanilla sex, or they want something more.
Having a disability is NOT the extent of a person’s diversity. Anyone can be a dominatrix. Anyone can like anal sex. Anyone can have more than one partner. Anyone can be into fetish sexual play.
Myth 3: If we don’t talk about sex, people with disabilities won’t want it.
This doesn’t work for anyone, PERIOD. If you don’t talk about sex, it will NOT go away.
Unfortunately, some people with disabilities are not taught sex education because of this myth.
Everyone needs to learn about:
- Their bodies
- Their feelings
- Good touch vs. bad touch
- Language to express their feelings and curiosities
Sadly, research shows that people with disabilities are at a significantly higher risk for sexual victimization than the general population. Among people with developmental disabilities, the rates are very high.
People with disabilities are helpless and often isolated. Sometimes they are unable to access helpful resources like the police. Of course, it is not their fault that abuse happens. The Committee on Children with Disabilities believes that knowledge is power. Sex education is the best protection from abuse. People with disabilities have the right to assert themselves and refuse sexual advances.
Myth 4: They should focus on their disability rather than sex.
Yes – it’s important to address disabilities. Yet, that doesn’t mean that people with disabilities cannot experience sexual play.
Afterall, doesn’t everyone deserve love and pleasure?
Relationships, love, and sex make people feel alive. Sex and orgasms also have many health benefits. Everyone can enjoy those benefits, right?
Myth 5: Sex with disabilities is too much work.
Who would be with someone who needs help or has limits on what they can and can not do? Anyone open-minded! After all, we all have our limits, and some limitations are more visible than others.
Sex with a person with disabilities can be amazing! It requires new positions, open communication, creativity, and changing what intimacy looks like.
Myth 6: People with disabilities know nothing about sex and sexuality.
The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability is an excellent sex education book for people with disabilities. It teaches those who live with chronic pain, illness or disabilities how to experience pleasure. This guide provides encouragement, support, and expert information on sex positions, orgasms, and sex toys. It also features illustrations and a resource guide.
Myth 7: Sex can’t actually happen.
YES, it can!!!
People with physical disabilities can have sex. It takes a little bit more time and planning.
Sex isn’t limited to your genitals. You don’t need to have an erection. You don’t need to have an orgasm. There doesn’t need to be penetration. You don’t need any of these things to be sexual and experience intimacy and pleasure. The best adult toys are an excellent way to experience sexual play.
Luxury vibrators and luxury sex toys are your helpful tools on your road to pleasure. They can supply the necessary power and stimulation or reach when a hand is unable.
Sex Tip: Electric vibrators have cords and deliver powerful vibrations. Meanwhile, the battery and rechargeable vibes are cordless and are not as powerful.
Hands-free sex toys are excellent if you cannot achieve an erection. You can use a strap-on dildo. If you have trouble having a penile orgasm, you can use a prostate stimulator to orgasm.
Many women need personal lubricants because they can not lubricate on their own. Many reasons affect why women do not create enough natural lubrication. Those include menopause, spinal injuries, neurological impairments, and other disabilities.
Best Sex Toys for People with Disabilities
Sex toy manufacturers now recognize the need for sexual aids and sex toys for people with various physical abilities. So, here are our picks for the best sex toys for people with disabilities:
Tantus Echo Handle Dildo
Tantus Echo Handle Dildo has a long handle.The handle of this luxury silicone dildo makes thrusting much easier and more comfortable. This is an excellent dildo if you have a back injury, have a large body, are pregnant or have other limitations. A thick shaft, phallic head, and four pronounced ridges make this an amazing unique dildo.
Doxy Wand Massager
Wand vibrators and massagers deliver powerful vibrations to a large area, wherever it may be. Also, the very strong vibrations are helpful if your medication(s) prevent you from experiencing an orgasm.
With a long handle (13″) & and a very large — almost tennis ball sized — massage area, Doxy Wand Massager is also great if you have limited extension in your arms or have arthritis. The is an electric vibrator with many very strong rumbly vibrations. It is excellent for external stimulation or stimulation anywhere on the body. Attachments are available for internal use for G-spot or prostate stimulation.
Please note: If you are incontinent, do not choose an electric vibrator. Urine conducts electricity. We would recommend a rechargeable waterproof vibrator.
Fun Factory Stronic Drei
The Drei is a hands-free sex toy that mimics the back and forth movement of penetration. The curved tip of the Fun Factory Stronic Drei uses targeted pulsating thrusts to stimulate the prostate or G-spot.
Cobra Libre 2 Male Masturbation Device
The Cobra Libre 2 is the best hands-free male sex toy. It stimulates the tip of the penis. This male masturbation device surrounds the very sensitive tip of the penis with its soft interior. Inside are 2 motors that deliver vibrations to the head of the penis.
We-Vibe Unite and Sync
Worn by her during penetration so that both partners receive pleasure, the We-Vibe Unite and We-Vibe Sync are hands-free sex toys. These luxury sex toys stimulate the clitoris and the G-spot at the same time during couples or solo play. Both the Sync and Unite come with a wireless remote control. You can also use your smartphone as a remote control with the Sync.
Fin Finger Vibrator
one side has pin-point stimulation for clitoral stimulation
one side is soft and flexible
JimmyJane Hello Touch X
The Jimmyjane Hello Touch X is a finger vibrator with the added bonus of e-stim/electrostimulation. Hello Touch X sends vibration and electricity to the tips of your fingers. Use it externally to stimulate the clitoris/vulva and internally to stimulate the G-spot.
Fleshlight Male Masturbation Toys
Many people have limited hand function or limited strength in their upper extremity. The Fleshlight male masturbation devices are lightweight and easy to hold. With lots of different options, Fleshlight is one of the most popular and best male sex toys in the market.
Pulse 3 Male Male Sex Toy
Pulse 3 SOLO or DUO by Hot Octopuss is a hands-free sex toy. It is one of the most powerful and best male sex toys. The Pulse 3 helps with different forms of erectile dysfunction (ED), including some caused by spinal cord injuries. Use the Pulse 3 with either an erect or flaccid penis. The SOLO is for solo masturbation. The DUO is a remote-controlled sex toy and has extra vibration on the underside of the toy for couples play.
We-Vibe Ditto Vibrating Plug
If you want to experiment with anal play and stimulation, a remote-controlled sex toy is your best bet. We-Vibe Ditto is excellent during masturbation, foreplay or sex. Slim and flexible at the base, Ditto is easy to insert and comfortable to wear. This premium butt plug has an asymmetrical shape so you can use it in a variety of positions.
Liberator Sex Pillows
people with limited mobility
anyone who wants more comfort in their sexual play
The Liberator Wanda is a sex toy mount designed to hold an electric wand massager, such as the Doxy Wand Massager. The mount’s narrow construction is ideal for straddling and enables completely hands-free access to your luxury vibrator or dildo.
Spareparts Hardwear Strap On Dildo Harness
A dildo harness can be helpful for those who have trouble penetrating their partner. Spareparts Hardwear makes comfortable and beautiful dildo harnesses and dildo panties. You could try something traditional dildo harness like the Joque or Deuce or a dildo panty, such as the Tomboi.
Spareparts Hardwear La Palma Didlo Holder
La Palma is a dildo glove or dildo holder. It is an excellent option if you have difficulty holding a sex toy for an extended period of time. If you have arthritis, carpal tunnel or any other muscular issues, La Palma is the perfect sex accessory.
Wet for Her Five Jules Strap On Dildo
The Five Jules Strap On Dildo is a luxury strap on silicone dildo. It’s a non-phallic dildo alternative for penetration. Five Jules is very stable when worn with a harness or used for hand-held penetration.
Wet For Her Union Double Dildo
Double ended dildos are useful for partner sex because of their length. They are hands-free sex toys when used by both partners. Wet For Her Union Double Dildo is a 100% silicone dildo. It is flexible and includes a bullet vibrator for additional stimulation.
Fun Factory Pop Ejaculating Dildo
The Fun Factory Pop Ejaculating Dildo is a unique luxury silicone dildo. Its patented technology allows you to penetrate your partner and mimic an ejaculation. It’s an excellent option if you suffer from erectile dysfunction or have other disabilities where you can ejaculate.
A sex swing allows you and your partner to try many positions that they never thought were possible! It’s best if you have limited flexibility for positioning or have arthritis. With padded supports, the Sex Swing also has a torque bar for added support. Extra-wide nylon straps and self-tightening buckles are adjustable for the perfect fit and comfort.
Vaginal dilators help you if you experience painful sex due to menopause, cancer treatments, vaginismus, or vaginal atrophy. Dilators help restore the health and elasticity of vaginal tissue. This makes sex more comfortable and pleasurable. We recommend starting with a Silicone Vaginal Dilator Set.
Sportsheets I Like Doggie It Style Strap
The Sportsheets I Like Doggie It Style Strap adds comfort to doggie-style sex or any sex position! It is soft and padded with adjustable straps that hold you or your partner into place. This is ideal for those with limited mobility and strength. It is also ideal for those who live with fatigue, spasms, or balance impairments.
Fun Factory Buck Dich Paddle Dildo
The Buck Dich is a unique silicone paddle. It is a combination of a luxury dildo and paddle. Much lighter than wooden or leather paddles, this silicone sex toy is a great introduction to sensation play. The flexibility of the silicone allows you to use less of your own energy. Yet, you deliver the same amount of pain and pleasure. The Buck Dich requires less upper body strength and can also be excellent if you have dexterity pain.
Sportsheets Thigh Strap-on Harness
This thigh harness has an adjustable neoprene sleeve that fits a variety of limbs. Thus, you can have a completely hands-free sexual experience. The harness can also serve as a sex toy mount when strapped onto all kinds of mobility devices. No matter how you use the Sportsheets Thigh Strap-on Harness, it is an excellent option if you have limited pelvic movement.
Lubricant makes sex and masturbation more enjoyable. This is true especially if you or your partner are experiencing changes in personal lubrication.
Water-based lubricant feels wet and is a placeholder until your own natural lubrication kicks in. It’s excellent for silicone sex toys. Yet, it does tend to dry out. But, if you add a little bit of water, it comes right back.
Silicone lubricant is excellent for sex, masturbation and water play. It never dries out. Premium high-quality silicone lubricant is NOT tacky.
Please note: silicone lubricant should NOT be used with silicone sex toys.