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The Secrets to Better, Stronger Orgasms For Women


So many women don’t realize that pleasure (and orgasms) is their birthright. One part of a woman’s body, the clitoris, has no other job besides giving her pleasure. Some women are very lucky — they orgasm very easily. Other women have a very hard time achieving an orgasm. Since My Secret Luxury is all about your pursuit of pleasure, we thought it was time to help women achieve those orgasms they so rightly deserve!


You Need Oxytocin

Although Oxytocin plays an important role in sexual reproduction (during and after childbirth), some researchers believe that it might also be the key to better orgasms, according to a new study. Specifically they found that more oxytocin increased the intensity of orgasm and contentment after sexual intercourse.

So how do you get more oxytocin? Touching or showing your love to your partner can increase oxytocin. Sometimes, hearing the words, “I love you” or “I want you” can also get those oxytocin levels higher.

Foreplay is Key

Just like you are supposed to stretch before you exercise or get all of your ingredients organized before you start cooking, foreplay is what you should do for orgasmic results in the bedroom. Whether it is touching, dirty talk or teasing, foreplay is 100% necessary for women. Most women need about 20 minutes for best results.

Use Personal Lubricant

You might think that you don’t need lube because you are wet enough or nothing is wrong with you. WRONG! Personal lubricant enhances sexual play and makes it better and more enjoyable. Use the right kind of lubricant for the right situation.

Read more about Lube 101

Practice Makes Perfect

Did your mother always tell you to practice? Why? Because it made you better at whatever you were doing. It’s so important to figure out what you like and don’t like. It will increase the likelihood of an orgasm with a partner when you figure out how to do it by yourself. Masturbating is the key to knowing how your body works and reacts to stimulation.

Resist Temptation

It really is true: good things come to those who wait. The longer you hold off, the sweeter the reward!


Edging or orgasm control is used to describe when you come as close to the orgasm edge as possible without actually having an orgasm. In other words, when you are just about to orgasm, you STOP. Yes, that’s right — STOP. If you keep repeating this about 3 or 4 times, you will build up to a bigger and more intense orgasm.

The Very Important Clitoris

One of the major reasons why women have trouble reaching orgasm during sex is because the clit is not getting enough attention. For over 70% of women, clitoral stimulation IS the only way they will orgasm. There’s nothing wrong with that, but it’s just how women are made. Taking that into consideration, clitoral stimulation should be a top priority.

Use the Right Luxury Sex Toys

Of course, this one is our favorite! So what if you need to use a vibrator to orgasm? It’s a much better option than not having an orgasm at all! Luxury vibrators are more powerful, last longer, feel softer and never complain!

See our best sex toys for beginners.

Eat The Right Foods

Can certain foods and herbs boost your libido? Some say yes and some say no. A plate of greasy food will definitely not help your orgasm, but there’s no harm in trying everything else! We all need to eat!

Exercise Your Kegels

Why exercise your kegel muscles? Because strong pelvic floor muscles are the key to stronger orgasms! It’s hard enough to get to the gym, but luckily, you can exercise your kegel muscles right from the comfort of your own home. It’s very easy to do with luxury kegel exercisers. Plus, some have small balls inside that vibrate for the extra reward for exercising!


Speaking about exercise . . . not only should you exercise your kegel muscles, you should also exercise the rest of your body! Not only does excercise make you more confident (and allows you to fit into that sexy bikini or dress) it also benefits you in the bedroom for those marathon sex sessions or crazy sexual positions!


What’s your secret for better orgasms?



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