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Tips for Adding BDSM to the Bedroom

Tips for Adding BDSM to the Bedroom
Tips for Adding BDSM to the Bedroom

There’s many questions surrounding BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, Masochism). “Will it hurt?”; “Is it ok to want it?”; “How do you start with BDSM?” Whether you prefer dominance or submission, BDSM is all about pleasure and highlighting the senses. When aroused, our bodies respond differently, making us feel unexpected pleasure.

If BDSM is something that interests you, and you are not sure where to begin, here are some tips for adding BDSM to the bedroom:

Communicate – Tell your partner that you are interested in exploring this type of pleasure. Once you do start experimenting, make sure to check-in with you partner to see if they also enjoyed themselves and discuss if their are any ways that the experience can be improved.

Yes/No/Maybe List – Together with your partner, write a comprehensive list of every sexual act that comes to mind. Next to each item, each person writes Yes, No or Maybe. That’s the best way to discover what interests both of you.

Know What Turns You On – The easiest and safest way to discover what turns you on is to read BDSM erotica or educational books about BDSM. Note in the story what excites you, and share it with your partner.

Stay Safe – Agree on a safeword for when things get to be too much for you or your partner, like “red” (stop) or yellow” (go slower).

Smaller Is Better – Start small and keep it simple. Start with a blindfold or wrist cuffs or using your hand for spanking. Once you get more comfortable, you can introduce other items into your fantasy.

Have Fun! – BDSM is all about creating intimacy and erotic moments that turn you on. It’s ok to laugh or quit if it’s not working.

Ready to begin?

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