For women, desire starts in the brain. A combination of thoughts, emotions, and hormones affect sexual desire. According to Dr. Amen, optimizing your brain gives you greater pleasure, deeper relationships, and lasting love.
Here are a few ways to make sure the brain gets what it needs for the best sex:
1. Don’t let those negative thoughts about yourself, such as you need to lose weight, you are not sexy, you don’t deserve pleasure, using a luxury vibrator is wrong, ruin the pleasure that you deserve.
2. Remember to appreciate the one you love and all that they do for you and your relationship. Tell the one you love, “Thank you for making me dinner” or “Thank you for taking out the trash” or “Thank you for loving me the way that you do.” It’s those little things that can turn you on, which is especially true for women.
3. Don’t let stress ruin your sex life. (Am I doing this right? Am I pleasing my partner?) Relax and enjoy yourself. After all, sex is supposed to be fun!
4. Remember that sex should include the five senses. The brain interprets all of the senses and uses these senses to increase our desire. Here are some suggestions to incorporate the senses into your sex life:
- Sight: Try limiting sight with a blindfold.
- Hearing: Whisper something sexy in your lover’s ear.
- Touch: Try touching your lover with a feather teaser, an ice cube, or a luxury sex toy.
- Smell: Light a fragrant massage candle or spray your sheets with some linen spray.
- Taste: Try a delicious edible body paint and taste your lover like you never have before!
Most people are surprised to learn that your brain is so important to sex. You might feel sex in your genitals, but the brain is where it all begins. From fantasies to our five senses, the brain affects us sexually more than any other organ.
If you turn on the brain and have fun, you are good to go!